"Regret doesn't remind us that we did badly, it remind us that we can do better."
While forgiving yourself for things you wish you had done differently is important; embracing the purpose and benefits of being a person who can feel regret, and using these natural feelings constructively, is just as crucial.
In other words, when reviewing the past experiences of one's own life; grace, without wisdom, will in all likelihood, lead to a much less productive, fulfilling, life experience. As for how I personally combine such adages within my own faith and journey; I can't think of any time when I have sought, prayed or yearned for forgiveness, while not also seeking, praying and striving for renewed or increased wisdom.
This talk was a great reminder for me, of the crucial lessons my faith and experiences painfully taught me years ago: The trials, mistakes and regrets themselves, are the blessings life most potently utilizes to create wisdom within each of us. Learning to embrace regret and our mistakes in an effective way, is crucial to heading forward through life with richer more fulfilling decisions, actions and results.
(Kathryn Schulz makes a powerful and moving case for embracing our regrets.)
"...if we have goals and dreams, and we want to do our best, and if we love people and we don't want to hurt them or lose them, we should feel pain when things go wrong. The point isn't to live without any regrets. The point is to not hate ourselves for having them."